According to some social surveys, we can see that the only child in most Chinese families feels lonely in some ways.Why the only child feels lonely?Is loneliness a terrible thing?

Compared with the western, the Chinese children are shyer in communication, which is a reason to make them lack of friends and companies.On the other hand, as the only child in the family, they can’t enjoy the happiness from brother or sister.When they meet some troubles, they have to deal with them by themselves; they can’t get help from their family fellows.Therefore, compared with the children who have brother or sister, the onlychild would feel lonelier.

However, is loneliness completely a bad thing?Obviously, the answer is no, because loneliness also can bring something good for them.It is reported that the only child possesses more advantages than other children in personality and in thought.

Firstly, the only child is more independent in personality.Lacking of help from others, they are used to dealing with all kinds of things by themselves as much as possible.Thus, the only child would be more independent in life and they can endure more setbacks and pressure.Inaddition, when they leave their parents and start to live alone, they would meet fewer difficulties.But the precondition is that they don’t rely on their parents deeply.

Moreover, the only child has wider horizon than others.As the only kid in the family, they can enjoy better conditions in life or in education, and they have more opportunities to get in touch with fresh things and accept higher education.In this premise, loneliness gives them more time and space to think after study.As the saying goes, genius is the product of the loneliness.Einstein is a good example.Therefore, on the one hand, the only child feels lonely. But at the same time, one can enjoy loneliness when thinking.Loneliness brings more chances to think of meaning about life and future.

In a word, the only child feels lonely but also can get some benefits.Learning to enjoy loneliness, one would be easier to taste the real life.

许多社会调查报告表明，在大多数家庭中独生子会觉得孤独。为什么独生子会有孤独感呢？孤独不好吗？

同西方社会相比，中国的孩子在与人交流时会表现的更害羞一些，这也导致了他们缺少朋友和伙伴。此外，由于是家庭的独生子，他们也不能享受与兄弟姐妹相处的快乐。无论遇到什么困难，他们都必须自己解决，不能从家庭成员那获得帮助。因而，同有兄弟姐妹的人相比，这些孩子往往会觉得孤独。

那孤独是百害而无一利吗？答案显然是否定的，因为也有其益处。据报道，独生子同其他孩子相比在性格和思维方式具有很大优势。

首先，独生子更独立。因为缺少他人的帮助，他们习惯于尽可能独自处理各种事情，因而，他们在生活中很独立，能够承受更多的挫折和压力。而且，他们如果不是特别依赖父母的话，会比其他孩子更能适应离开父母独自生活。

此外，独生子的见识更广。因为是家中唯一的孩子，他们能够享有更高的生活教育水平，能够有更多的机会接触新事物，接受高等教育。如果是这样的话，那么孤独则是给他们创造了更多的时间空间来学习。正如一句老话说的好，天才是孤独的产物，爱因斯坦就是一个很好的例子。所以，独生子可能会觉得孤单，但只要他们改变想法，认为孤独可以给他更多的机会思考人生，思考未来，他们就可以享受孤独。

总而言之，孤独可以让独生子们觉得无助但也会给他们带来益处。一旦学会了享受孤独，那么就能够更加轻松的品尝真正的生活。